Break the emotional grip food has on you and hit play on you.
Diet and weight loss coaching that pulls you out of food drama—and brings your slim self with you.
You want the figure more than the fudge. But food keeps pulling you back.
If you know food hell, you're in the right place.
The shame. The regret. The self-hate.
Years of battling food and your weight.
You’ve done it all.
Counted calories and steps. Been injected. Swallowed pills. Joined the groups. Read the books. Seen the “experts.” Cut carbs or fat depending on the decade. Tried every plan going. If you lost any weight, watched it run right back.
Because even when you were slim, you weren’t free. And when you were heavier, food’s grip only tightened.
That hold? It’s been there for as long as you can remember. Nothing’s ever broken it.
You don’t need more motivation or willpower, clever tips or 30-minute workouts. It’s not about finding the perfect diet either.
What you need is for food to stop meaning so much.
To break the emotional grip. To get a backbone around food. To stop mentally switching sides the moment eating becomes possible. To stop caving at the first speck of a craving. To finally let your slim self out for air.
If you’re tired of the food drama—the way it calls you back in, even when it’s just a thought—then I see you.
The Trim Woman System goes deeper than skills or food plans. It breaks the emotional grip food has on you, so you can control your eating and become your slim self. You feel her trapped inside you, screaming for air. She wants to be you and you ache to be her. But food has been between you.
TRIMS removes the barrier. It puts food in its place, rewires your eating patterns, and gets you your figure back.
Can’t wait to work with you.
The food pull is real. Diet promises always crumble. It's time for a system that resets the relationship and returns your figure.
Introducing The Trim Woman System
The holy grail to stop overeating is dieting. When it comes to tight portions and waistlines, diets stand alone, because, at their core, they promise what women the world over inherently want: to rule food and remove the urge that brings them back again and again.
So why is it so hard? Especially for the woman who knows the shame, anger, and regret that follows overeating; the woman who’s an expert in nutrition, who knows exactly what to do, and who desperately wants slimness—and feels her slim self fighting for air inside her.
Why does she—the one living through this emotional pit, who would do anything to get out—keep going back to food? It won’t make sense until you stop thinking that women—and dieting—are simple affairs.
Behind every woman who struggles with food and weight is someone trying to make peace with her past, cope with who she is, and get some semblance of what she wants. Food became her knight in shining armour. It made sense. So it happened easily.
To help her, you need the lay of the land—a bird’s-eye view. The woman in the centre, who never felt good enough, never felt worth very much. Her backstory. Her food history. Why leaving her eating and weight struggles behind matters so deeply. What she wants her figure and food life to look like. And what she wants for herself—once she’s finally free of all this.
Only then can you see when the trap was set, why it’s held you for so long and how to get out. And this we know: dieters keep returning. If diets worked as is, we’d only need to do them once. And they’re misunderstood. We see them as simple, one-dimensional. Just stick to the rules. But diets are more like a delinquent street kid—there’s more to them than meets the eye.
They crumble under the pressure we put them under, expecting them to perform a psychological magic trick and clean up why we need the diet in the first place. The part of us that keeps going back, no matter how badly we want out.
So for the woman who’s got food wrapped around her heart, we go deeper. We loosen the emotional tie-ins to food. We learn how to play the dieting game and who the real players are. And we keep the woman in the middle of it all, front and centre.
From here on, everything we do is about getting you out of food hell—and keeping you steady, safe, and out of reach. The TRIMS System will take you through a process that makes you choose your figure over the fudge any day of the week. There are five steps to this. Each step is repeated daily. Together, they clear out the path for your slim self and keep it clear.
TRIMS: Because You Want Something Else More Than You Want To Go To That Refrigerator?
TheTrim Woman System: For Women Who Want The Joy Of Being Slim And Get Past The Cake:
Toward Truce: Food’s not going to break up with you. It’ll always be there—offering comfort, escape, a way to feel better fast. And as long as it means that much, you’ll keep going back. We must rewrite that relationship, take food off the pedestal, and get you your power back. Because once you do, it stops pulling so hard and you get some space. That’s when your slim self can finally come through—the version of you not weighed down by food anymore.
Reset Your Plate: You know how no one’s favourite ice cream is vanilla? It’s fine. It gets eaten. But no one’s losing sleep over it.That’s how your meals need to be.
Nice enough to eat, not so good they keep calling you back. Because if you want to be slim more than you want to keep running to the fridge, you can’t keep choosing food that makes you lose your mind. This step is about neutral food. No high. No drama. Just stuff your slim self eats—day in, day out—without cravings screaming, without your sanity slipping, and without it costing you your waistline.Include The Necessities: Obviously, food matters—but staying slim isn’t just about what you eat. Other factors count too, and the basics still work. We don’t ditch them, we use them. Some of the new ideas? Atrocious. They’ve got to go. Portions count. Exercise helps. The scales matter. “All food in moderation”? Forget it. This is your safety net, so one bad bite doesn’t spiral into five bad days. It’s tools, choices, old truths. The kind of eating women before us knew, women who’d made peace with food and looked like they had. We borrow from them and add what we know. That’s how you create a new normal.
Masking The Monster: When food stops running your life, you’ll feel the void. And in that space? Everything it used to cover: boredom, pain, emptiness. That’s when cravings creep in. Or worse, you go looking for them. So we don’t leave it empty. We fill it with what really fills you: your work, your people, your goals. The stuff that makes you feel useful, happy, alive. Because when you’re lit up by your own life, you’re not reaching for two blocks of chocolate. And when the danger zones hit, you’re already somewhere food can’t reach.
Strike A Look: The most overlooked tool for keeping your figure is how you dress it. Once your slim self is back, your style instincts need to come back too. Wear clothes that match who you now are. Suddenly, it’s not just about self-esteem. You’re dressing in a way your slim self recognises. You remove the barrier that’s kept you hidden. That flip—from dressing to hide to dressing as you—isn’t just about looking good. It’s armour. It holds your figure in place and turns you off overeating. Because let’s be honest: we plough through pizza and chocolate cake in holey T-shirts and stretched-out trackies. Not when we’re dressed like a woman who looks like herself and likes what she sees in the mirror.
Testimonials…
Michelle F., Melbourne
"I’ve spent 30 years trying to lose weight and keep it off. Now, I’ve gone from a size 18 to a size 12, and know I’m never going back. I’ve thrown out all my old clothes—I won’t be needing them again. This is me now."
Kym H., New York
“I thought I wanted him gone. But when he left, I was beside myself. I couldn’t stop eating. I contacted you and everything lifted. I cleared out my house, lost 12 lb in six weeks, then another 9. But more than that, I stopped hurting. I saw a future for me. I can’t thank you enough.”
Tracey D., Adelaide
“I started at 94 kg. Now I’m 72 kg and it feels easy. I’ve lost 22 kg and only have 20 to go, but already I feel like a new woman. I’m even sharing my food plan with friends at work. Thank you, Melinda.”
The TRIMS Process
The above steps are your way out of food's control. Steps 1 and 2 rewire what’s lagging—the part of you that runs to food without a fight, and the emotional tie that keeps dragging you back. This is what makes dieting hold. It stops being a struggle because the two parts that used to give in are now aligned ... start seeing things differently. Then steps 3 through 5 bring back the look you crave—the one that matches your body to who you are, holds his gaze, and finally lets you stop hiding from the world.
I'm dead serious about getting you to the point where changing how you eat feels worth it 100% of the time—because I won’t let you stay trapped in pain, self-hate, or a life you despise. I could hammer home the urgency of escaping food hell, but the only voice that really matters is your slim self, she’s been suffocating for life this whole time, telling you this isn’t sustainable.
My role isn’t to hand you a diet or to police your food choices. It’s to short-circuit your current eating patterns and reset them, so you look and feel sensational in your fifties, sixties, seventies, and beyond. I do this by uncovering what works for you—your ideal diet, your definition of healthy, and the realities of your day-to-day life. We'll lock in the figure you desire and build the structure that keeps it for good. Most importantly, we’ll pinpoint why food ever meant so much—and make sure it never does again.
I work in a structured, methodical way—so every step holds, and nothing collapses later. I’ll guide you every step of the way. I believe your intake sets the scales. I don’t focus on medications, hormonal factors (like menopause), or genetics—because weight is rooted in low self-esteem and the ache to feel wanted and valued. But it’s not just emotional. Sometimes, you reach for cake simply because you’re bored. Or because there's nothing else available that feels remotely as good. And let’s be honest: no woman alive would choose chocolate cake over a fit male chest or a sweaty bicep. It just feels easier to reach for food than to ask for what you really want. Whatever you’ve been trying to fill with food—love, desire, being seen, feeling wanted—we’ll get to the root of it together. Sometimes that means going after what you actually need. Sometimes it means finding a smarter workaround. Either way, we replace the ache—and the habit—with something that actually hits the spot.
What’s Inside The 12 Weeks:
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You get my eyes on your relationship with food, eating, and your slim self—so we can rewire the two parts that keep dragging you back: the part that runs to food without a fight, and the part that leans on it for emotional relief. Once those are handled, we lock in your ideal diet and the structure to hold it—so you’re comfortable in your own skin and find your vital spark. We tailor every step of The Trim Woman System to you, your life, and what’s been in your way—so food drama has nothing left to cling to.
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This group is your space to unpack what's really going on with food—overeating, emotional eating, bingeing, snacking, starving, and everything in between. We're not here to manage it. We're here to end it. This is where women come to stop giving food the say and to stop wanting one thing but doing another.
We're honest, kind, and clear-eyed. No judgment. Just women who've had enough of the pain, the hiding, and the control food has had—and are bursting for something different. Because when you take food out of the way, life’s floodgates open.
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Deep, real conversations that get to the root of your tension and what needs healing. Stay connected, hear what’s working for others, and keep your momentum strong—so you leave feeling clearer, lighter, and more sure of yourself. These weekly sessions give you extra personal support, fresh insight, and a chance to ask your own questions—so nothing gets in your way.
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You won’t be doing this alone. Inside, you’ll find women who understand what you’re working through and are here to keep you steady, focused, and on track. It’s a space to stay connected, share what’s working, and be reminded that you’re not the only one who deserves more.
It’s Not The Diet That Fails—It’s What You Don’t Fix First
I rarely recommend diets in isolation. Emotional eating, bingeing, starvation, swinging between starving and stuffing yourself, and carrying weight you hate—are almost always emotional issues. I’ve never seen an exception.
A simple meal plan can’t quiet food turmoil, quell taste hunger, or calm your eating when your heart is used to relying on it or replace the emotional hit food gives. And it definitely won’t have you effortlessly sliding into your favourite clothes month after month. It’s too big a job.
Nobody wants to stay stuck in their food nightmare. And if knowing what’s wrong and wanting to fix it were enough (which most women already do), then a plan of ‘three small meals a day’ would’ve worked by now. But it hasn’t.
When it comes to keeping food at a distance, a lid on your eating, and your waistline in check—diets are in a class of their own. That’s where they reign, in theory. Nothing else seems to come close. And women know it. That’s why they keep going back, clinging to the belief that diets work for intake control.
What they also know—often unconsciously—is that underneath the struggle with food is their slim self, waiting to be pulled out. But a diet can’t do that alone. It doesn’t fix the emotional grip food has. The part of you that loves food can’t also be the one deciding when to stop. That’s why we pass the responsibility over to the diet.
The diet becomes the grown-up. It makes you behave around food. But it has to be supported. The parts it lacks—the emotional work, the tiny part of you that still expects to get what she wants with food, the craving games, the hunger mistruths—must scaffold the diet.
Thinking a diet will work in isolation from the very issues that made it necessary in the first place is a setup for failure. And treating diets like static, one-dimensional plans—rather than living breathing systems you actively engage with—is another miss.
Done right, diets don’t have to be nasty, hard, or scary. They can feel great—freeing—and become your preferred state. Especially when the feeling of slimness overtakes the taste of dessert. Diets are a human resource—an excavation tool. They’re your best shot at extracting the slim woman inside. They’re your ally in the world of food. And they’re the gatekeeper to your peace of mind.
TRIMS gives you what diets can’t. It rewires how you see yourself, clears the emotional roots of your eating, and brings common sense back to food—so you can create a new normal for how you live, look, and feel. From day one, we work with the diet and tackle what’s really been running the show. Because just like a new car can’t fix a broken marriage, a diet alone won’t fix emotional eating—or a love for actual eating.
Being slim isn’t just about calories. It’s a state of mind.
Important Information…
The Trim Woman System is always open for enrolment. You can join anytime, start the program when you're ready, and make full use of the private Trim Woman Facebook Group for three months as you go through the program.
Lay Down The Weight: And Don’t Turn Back
You don’t have a dieting problem.
You’ve just been trying to diet while food was still running the show.
You can’t always predict it. Some days you last longer than others. But at some point, food pulls you back. You’re sure it’s the last time, so you go all in—because there’s no way you’re doing it again tomorrow. It’s not because you’re weak or hopeless or pathetic.
It’s because food’s doing something for you. Comforting you. Removing you. Being your friend. It’s not something you can just cut off. Food has, in a sense, earned its place. It’s not wrong. It’s not your fault. It’s just a misconnection we need to correct.
Dieting isn’t the problem. Trying to diet while food is still your answer is. Some foods still hold power because of what they meant to you in your harder moments. And until that emotional tie goes somewhere else, they’ll keep calling you back.
In this guide, I’ll show you:
Why one look from certain foods makes you go to water—and how to break that
Why letting go of the food that “has” you is the smartest thing you can do
How your personal food history is the missing piece no diet ever asked you about
And how clearing it brings your slim self into the present—and lets you retire the version of you who’s been stuck in the struggle
Because dieting works when it’s not just about the food. It works when you’re no longer the woman who needs it.
Hi, I’m Melinda Harper,
I’m a diet and weight loss coach in Melbourne, and like most women, my life’s busy—three teenagers at school, late dinners, and homework that starts at 10 p.m. I spend way more time on Zoom than I ever thought I would, and honestly, I never seem to catch up. But, I love it. Helping women overcome their food struggles and being a mum are my two favourite things.
For over twenty years, food was my best friend, worst enemy, and every thought. I’d hold the line during the day, but by night, I’d falter—eat all my favourites, instantly regret it, and swear I’d do it properly tomorrow. Every single night. But I never did. And even though I hated myself, nothing changed.
One day I realised: I hadn’t actually dieted for a full day in ages. I was just eating the same way, every day. I’d never lost any weight. I’d never controlled food. And I wasn’t doing anything I wanted to be doing.
I started going back to my old diet books from the ’80s—the ones that made actual food sense. They didn’t sugarcoat it, and they weren’t out to please everyone or tiptoe around today’s politically correct brigade. They talked about how important it is to look good, know your numbers, and prioritise what you want. They got it—and the women looked like they got it. They knew diets worked. And they knew how to work them.
But somewhere along the way, their knowledge had been dropped—and truthfully, the food in those diets hadn’t stood the test of time either. I saw that today’s frown on dieting—and on women daring to say they wanted to lose weight—wasn’t helping. It was making it harder for women to feel good in their bodies or get some peace. But I also thought: If diets really worked, why did women need them more than once? What made them so hard to stick to? If it was just a food issue, there are plenty of substitutes.
When I thought about what I did when I ate, I saw why. I’d watch love movies and rewind the bedroom scenes—Dirty Dancing, Ghost, Legends of the Fall—while eating pizza, cake, and chips. And it stung. Because if food was what I actually wanted, wouldn’t I have been rewinding Baby eating breakfast with her sister at the resort? Or in Jerry Maguire, why did my heart skip a beat with “you had me at hello”—not the platters on the coffee table?
Food was standing in for something else. I hated who I was. I didn’t feel very necessary. I was profoundly sad, lonely, and self-conscious. I wanted to be someone else. I wanted my past to be different. I wanted a husband. I wanted to be happy. I wanted to be with a man, have kids, love going to work, and live in a beautiful home. But I didn’t have any of that.
There was this part of me—tiny, but convincing—who could override everything. I couldn’t go out or meet anyone because I was fat. The overeating always ended badly. I knew food was causing all my problems. I never once liked myself or the food after I’d eaten it. But still—when that part switched on, I wasn’t just powerless. I was running to join in.
And that's what I do today.
I want every woman who’s struggled with her weight to see that the drama isn’t her—it isn’t even about the food. It’s about the toddler in her who always gets her way, no questions asked. And it’s about the deep-down feeling that she was never good enough—or that something in her was wrong, or something outside her made her sad. Food didn’t just become a habit. It became the thing that stepped in when nothing else did, or when she didn’t have a better option.
I want you to have space to speak about your food life—what it’s been, what it’s cost you, what you want instead, and yes, weight loss. Because women are now told that they should be happy at any size, even when i’s causing them deep pain. That’s not inclusivity. That’s silencing. I want you to feel fully expressed, attractive, and powerful in your life. To thrive in all your roles—and smile when you see yourself in the mirror. Because getting what you really want is so much easier when you feel good, look good, and know it.
You can get out of food hell any day you want. Not with some simplistic meal plan or by chastising yourself. But by laying it all out, looking where it hurts, going back to what works, and walking your slim self out of there. It’s not always easy—but it’s easier than food hell, guaranteed. And it’s far simpler than it’s been made out to be. It’s absolutely possible. I know, because I did it. And if it’s in you, I’ll help you do it too.
Melinda