There’s a woman inside you who wants the figure over the fudge, but the one who chooses the fudge keeps winning.
I help the right one win.
That's how you become a Trim Woman.
You want the legs more than the linguine, but the pasta prevails.
The shame, the regret, the self-hate... it runs deep. And it goes beyond taste. You’ve known for a long time that food means too much to you.
You’ve spent years in it: starving or stuffing yourself. Bargaining with food. One last free-for-all with your favourites. Promising it’s the final time because tomorrow, everything changes. Telling yourself you’ll never eat like this again. That this time, after tonight, it’ll stick.
You’ve tried everything to turn the tables on food and your eating. You’ve counted calories, walked miles, swallowed pills, been injected. You’ve joined the groups, read the books, listened to the experts. You’ve cut carbs, cut fat, gone high protein, no sugar, all organic, all plants. You name it. And if the weight came off, it never stayed off.
Even when you were slim, you weren’t free. Because food’s had a hold on you for as long as you can remember. A hold stronger than strong. Nothing’s ever broken it. When food calls, you run. Everything else leaves your mind. Doesn’t stand a chance. Your diet, figure, noble plans? They’re no match.
You’ve tried to break away. But how do you break free from something you can’t fully see or explain? Why do you keep doing this to yourself? Why do you go back at every chance, when you know the cost and what it’s doing to your soul, your body, and your life.
And that’s the real question, isn’t it? Why do you keep going back?
You don’t need more motivation or willpower. Not another clever tip or a new 30-minute workout. And it’s not about finding the perfect diet either.
What you need is for food to stop being so Goddamn magnetic.
To break the emotional grip. To get a backbone around food. To stop mentally switching sides the moment a thought pops in your head or a packet crinkles. To not fall at the softest nudge of a craving. To let your slim self out for air.
If you’re hurting in food pain, the kind that calls you back in no matter what you actually want, I see you.
The Trim Woman Program goes deeper than diets, plans, or skills. It gives you real distance. Actual space and separation from food. So you can eat from sense and sanity, not from weak knees and broken promises. So you can be fully present in your life.
Your slim self, you feel her trapped. She wants to be you. You ache to be her. But food is in the way. This program clears that barrier. It rewires your eating patterns and puts food in its place and a smile on your face.
Food pull is real. Diet promises always crumble. TRIMS flips the power. Food stops running the show, your figure returns, and you step forward.
The Woman Behind The Weight
Forget the rhetoric. Forget anti-diet culture. Most women are either on a diet or want to be. Because they know, that when it comes to tight portions and waistlines, diets still stand alone. At their core, they promise what every woman secretly wants: To rule food and sever the pull that keeps dragging her back.
So why’s it hard? Why does she, who wants to end food’s nightmare, still go back? It won’t make sense until we stop thinking women and food are simple affairs. Behind every woman caught, is someone trying to make peace with her past, manage right now, and cling to hope for her future. Somewhere along the way, early on, food stepped in and took her hand. It became her ready comfort, her knight in shining armour. It worked. And it happened oh-so-easily.
To understand, you need the full picture: the lay of her land. Her backstory. Her food history. The woman at the centre, who never felt special or good enough, and needed something to say otherwise. The one who blames food for how her life’s worked out. But still turns to it the second it calls. Who pins both her sadness and her solution to her weight.
She believes her fat is the cause of her pain, and losing it, her way out. That’s why dieting and weight loss matter so much. It’s not vanity. It’s the portal. Her gateway. Now can you see why we keep trying so hard? Why we keep eating, even when all we want is to be slim? Why we still care about losing weight, even when our to-do list never ends?
Because one thing’s certain, dieters keep returning. If dieting worked as-is, we’d only need to do it once. But it doesn’t. Not because it’s wrong, but because it’s been misunderstood. We treat it like it’s simple. One-dimensional. Just follow the rules.
But for the woman whose heart is tied to food, nothing about it is simple or easy. So we go deeper. We loosen the grip food has on you. We turn back from the foods you've emotionally tied into. And we diet to bring about what you want. Through it all, you stay front and centre. Every move is about keeping you steady, safe, and out of food’s reach.
The TRIMS Program doesn't just help you choose your figure over the fudge. It makes that an easy, automatic choice led by the woman freed underneath. Five steps, done daily. They don't just clear the path for your slim self. They keep it clear, so she becomes you.
TRIMS: Because You Want Something Else More Than You Want To Go To That Fridge?
TheTrim Woman Program: For Women Who Want The Joy Of Being Slim And Want To Get Past The Cake:
Turn Your Plate Vanilla: You know how no one’s favourite ice cream is vanilla? It’s fine. You wouldn’t pass it up. It gets eaten. But no one’s lining up for it at the counter.That’s how your meals need to be. Good enough to eat, not so good they keep calling you back. Because if you want to be trim more than you want the tarts, you can’t keep piling your plate with food that makes you go gaga. It’s a fine line, you want to enjoy your food, but not so much you’re like the kid picking his flavours. Cross it, and you’ll feel deprived. Don’t walk it, and you’ll keep the weight.
Raise Your Commitment: To get out of food hell and bring your slim self with you, you have to be as committed to your diet as you are to eating. Right now, there's a double standard. You're fierce when it comes to eating, no excuse stops you. But flimsy when it comes to your diet, any excuse will do. You'll eat when you're tired, stressed, or busy and drop your plan when you think cake. That's the gap. It's like the alcoholic who says they can't get to a meeting because it’s cold or dark, yet they'll drink whether it's pouring, freezing, or 3 a.m. Until your commitment to slimming matches your commitment to eating, you won't reach that tipping point, where the fridge loses its shine and your diet’s your lifestyle, not a battle.
Include The Necessities: Obviously, food matters in weight loss, *but* you can speed things along. It isn’t just about what you eat. Some of the basics put the new ideas to shame. Using smaller plates, exercising, stepping on the scales: plain common sense. All foods in moderation, making every meal a masterpiece, demonising slimness: criminal. This is your safety net, so you’re not unknowingly shooting yourself in the foot, and one bad bite doesn’t spiral into five bad days. It’s tools, choices, old truths. The kind of eating women before us knew. Women who’d made peace with food and looked like they had.
Mind The Gap: Soon, you’ll stop thinking about eating and your weight all day, and you’ll feel the void. If you don’t fill it, cravings will. Or worse, you’ll go looking for them. So we dial up the good things in your life: your friends, work, goals and dreams. Everything that lifts you up and keeps your mind off the cookie jar. And, on a granular level, during your high-risk eating hours, we don’t wing it. We make eating impossible.
Strike A Look: The most overlooked tool for getting and keeping your figure is how you dress it. If you’ve been dressing to hide and without much love, you may only know what you don’t want to wear anymore. That’s fine. We tap into your style instincts and bring them back to life. Nothing protects your diet or turns you off overeating more than fitting into your favourite pants and knowing you look great before you see the mirror. Think about it, we plough our way through a pizza and chocolate cake in holey T-shirts and stretched-out trackies, not when we don’t want to dirty our dress!
Testimonials…
Michelle F., Melbourne
"I’ve spent 30 years trying to lose weight and keep it off. Now, I’ve gone from a size 18 to a size 12, and know I’m never going back. I’ve thrown out all my old clothes—I won’t be needing them again. This is me now."
Kym H., New York
“I thought I wanted him gone. But when he left, I was beside myself. I couldn’t stop eating. I contacted you and everything lifted. I cleared out my house, lost 12 lb in six weeks, then another 9. But more than that, I stopped hurting. I saw a future for me. I can’t thank you enough.”
Tracey D., Adelaide
“I started at 94 kg. Now I’m 72 kg and it feels easy. I’ve lost 22 kg and only have 20 to go, but already I feel like a new woman. I’m even sharing my food plan with friends at work. Thank you, Melinda.”
The TRIMS Process
The above steps are your way out of food's control. Steps 1 and 2 rewire what’s lagging—the part of you that runs to food without a fight, and the emotional tie that keeps dragging you back. This is what makes dieting hold. It stops being a struggle because the two parts that used to give in are now aligned and seeing things differently. Then steps 3 through 5 bring back the look you crave—the one that makes your body match you inside, holds his gaze, and frees you from hiding to the world.
I'm dead serious about getting you to the point where changing how you eat feels worth it 100% of the time—because I won’t let you stay trapped in pain, self-hate, or a life you despise. I could hammer home the urgency of escaping food hell, but the only voice that really matters is your slim self. She’s been screaming for air—trapped inside—this whole time.
My role isn’t to hand you a diet or to police your food choices. It’s to short-circuit your current eating patterns and reset them, so you look and feel fantastic in your fifties, sixties, seventies, and beyond. I do this by uncovering what works for you—your tendencies, your definition of healthy, and the realities of your day-to-day life. We'll lock in the figure you desire and build the structure that keeps it for good. Most importantly, we’ll pinpoint why food ever meant so much—and make sure it never does again.
I work in a prescribed, methodical way—so every step holds, and nothing collapses later. No backsliding, no figuring it out on your own. I believe your intake sets the scales. I don’t focus on medications, hormonal factors (like menopause), or genetics—because weight is rooted in low self-esteem and the ache to feel wanted and valued. But it’s not just emotional. Sometimes, you reach for cake simply because you’re bored. Or because there's nothing else that feels remotely as good.
Let’s be honest: no woman alive would choose chocolate cake over a fit male chest or a sweaty bicep. It just feels easier to reach for food than to come to terms with what you want. Whatever you’ve been trying to fill with food—happiness, love, desire—we’ll get to the root of it together. Sometimes that means going after what you actually need. Sometimes it means finding a smarter workaround. Either way, we replace the ache—and the habit—with something that actually hits the spot.
What’s Inside The 12 Weeks:
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You get my eyes on your relationship with food, eating, and your slim self—so we can rewire the two parts that keep dragging you back: the part that runs to food without a fight, and the part that leans on it for emotional relief. Once those are handled, we lock in your ideal diet and the structure to hold it—so you’re comfortable in your own skin and find your vital spark. We tailor every step of The Trim Woman System to you, your life, and what’s been in your way—so food drama has nothing left to cling to.
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This group is your space to unpack what's really going on with food—overeating, emotional eating, bingeing, snacking, starving, and everything in between. We're not here to manage it. We're here to end it. This is where women come to stop giving food the say and to stop wanting one thing but doing another.
We're honest, kind, and clear-eyed. No judgment. Just women who've had enough of the pain, the hiding, and the control food has had—and are bursting for something different. Because when you take food out of the way, life’s floodgates open.
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Deep, real conversations that get to the root of your tension and what needs healing. Stay connected, hear what’s working for others, and keep your momentum strong—so you leave feeling clearer, lighter, and more sure of yourself. These weekly sessions give you extra personal support, fresh insight, and a chance to ask your own questions—so nothing gets in your way.
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You won’t be doing this alone. Inside, you’ll find women who understand what you’re working through and are here to keep you steady, focused, and on track. It’s a space to stay connected, share what’s working, and be reminded that you’re not the only one who deserves more.
It’s Not The Diet That Fails—It’s What You Don’t Fix First
I wouldn’t recommend diets in isolation. Emotional eating, bingeing, starvation, swinging between starving and stuffing yourself, and carrying weight you hate—are almost always emotional issues. I’ve never seen an exception.
A simple meal plan can’t quiet food turmoil, quell taste hunger, or calm your eating when your heart is used to relying on it or replace the emotional hit food gives. And it definitely won’t have you effortlessly sliding into your favourite clothes month after month. It’s too big a job.
Nobody wants to stay stuck in their food nightmare. And if knowing what’s wrong and wanting to fix it were enough (which most women already do), then a plan of ‘three small meals a day’ would’ve worked by now. But it hasn’t.
When it comes to keeping food at a distance, a lid on your eating, and your waistline in check—diets are in a class of their own. That’s where they reign, in theory. Nothing else seems to come close. And women know it. That’s why they keep going back, clinging to the belief that diets work for intake control.
What they also know—often unconsciously—is that underneath the struggle with food is their slim self, waiting to be pulled out. But a diet can’t do that alone. It doesn’t fix the emotional grip food has. The part of you that loves food can’t also be the one deciding when to stop. That’s why we pass the responsibility over to the diet.
The diet becomes the grown-up. It makes you behave around food. But it has to be supported. The parts it lacks—the emotional work, the tiny part of you that still expects to get what she wants with food, the craving games, the hunger mistruths—must scaffold the diet.
Thinking a diet will work in isolation from the very issues that made it necessary in the first place is a setup for failure. And treating diets like static, one-dimensional plans—rather than living breathing systems you actively engage with—is another miss.
Done right, diets don’t have to be nasty, hard, or scary. They can feel great—freeing—and become your preferred state. Especially when the feeling of slimness overtakes the taste of dessert. Diets are a human resource—an excavation tool. They’re your best shot at extracting the slim woman inside. They’re your ally in the world of food. And they’re the gatekeeper to your peace of mind.
TRIMS gives you what diets can’t. It rewires how you see yourself, clears the emotional roots of your eating, and brings common sense back to food—so you can create a new normal for how you live, look, and feel. From day one, we work with the diet and tackle what’s really been running the show. Because just like a new car can’t fix a broken marriage, a diet alone won’t fix emotional eating—or a love for actual eating.
Being slim isn’t just about calories. It’s a state of mind.
Important Information…
The Trim Woman System is always open for enrolment. You can join anytime, start the program when you're ready, and make full use of the private Trim Woman Facebook Group for three months as you go through the program.
Lay Down The Weight: And Don’t Turn Back
You don’t have a dieting problem.
You’ve just been trying to diet while food was still running the show.
You can’t always predict it. Some days you last longer than others. But at some point, food pulls you back. You’re sure it’s the last time, so you go all in—because there’s no way you’re doing it again tomorrow. It’s not because you’re weak or hopeless or pathetic.
It’s because food’s doing something for you. Comforting you. Removing you. Being your friend. It’s not something you can just cut off. Food has, in a sense, earned its place. It’s not wrong. It’s not your fault. It’s just a misconnection we need to correct.
Dieting isn’t the problem. Trying to diet while food is still your answer is. Some foods still hold power because of what they meant to you in your harder moments. And until that emotional tie goes somewhere else, they’ll keep calling you back.
In this guide, I’ll show you:
Why one look from certain foods makes you go to water—and how to break that
Why letting go of the food that “has” you is the smartest thing you can do
How your personal food history is the missing piece no diet ever asked you about
And how clearing it brings your slim self into the present—and lets you retire the version of you who’s been stuck in the struggle
Because dieting works when it’s not just about the food. It works when you’re no longer the woman who needs it.
Hi, I’m Melinda Harper,
I’m a diet and weight loss coach in Melbourne, and like most women, my life’s busy—three teenagers at school, late dinners, and homework that starts at 10 p.m. I spend way more time on Zoom than I ever thought I would, and honestly, I never seem to catch up. But, I love it. Helping women overcome their food struggles and being a mum are my two favourite things.
For over twenty years, food was my best friend, worst enemy, and every thought. I’d hold the line during the day, but by night, I’d falter—eat all my favourites, instantly regret it, and swear I’d do it properly tomorrow. Every single night. But I never did. And even though I hated myself, nothing changed.
One day I realised: I hadn’t actually dieted for a full day in ages. I was just eating the same way, every day. I’d never lost any weight. I’d never controlled food. And I wasn’t doing anything I wanted to be doing.
I started going back to my old diet books from the ’80s—the ones that made actual food sense. They didn’t sugarcoat it, and they weren’t out to please everyone or tiptoe around today’s politically correct brigade. They talked about how important it is to look good, know your numbers, and prioritise what you want. They got it—and the women looked like they got it. They knew diets worked. And they knew how to work them.
But somewhere along the way, their knowledge had been dropped—and truthfully, the food in those diets hadn’t stood the test of time either. I saw that today’s frown on dieting—and on women daring to say they wanted to lose weight—wasn’t helping. It was making it harder for women to feel good in their bodies or get some peace. But I also thought: If diets really worked, why did women need them more than once? What made them so hard to stick to? If it was just a food issue, there are plenty of substitutes.
When I thought about what I did when I ate, I saw why. I’d watch love movies and rewind the bedroom scenes—Dirty Dancing, Ghost, Legends of the Fall—while eating pizza, cake, and chips. And it stung. Because if food was what I actually wanted, wouldn’t I have been rewinding Baby eating breakfast with her sister at the resort? Or in Jerry Maguire, why did my heart skip a beat with “you had me at hello”—not the platters on the coffee table?
Food was standing in for something else. I hated who I was. I didn’t feel very necessary. I was profoundly sad, lonely, and self-conscious. I wanted to be someone else. I wanted my past to be different. I wanted a husband. I wanted to be happy. I wanted to be with a man, have kids, love going to work, and live in a beautiful home. But I didn’t have any of that.
There was this part of me—tiny, but convincing—who could override everything. I couldn’t go out or meet anyone because I was fat. The overeating always ended badly. I knew food was causing all my problems. I never once liked myself or the food after I’d eaten it. But still—when that part switched on, I wasn’t just powerless. I was running to join in.
And that's what I do today.
I want every woman who’s struggled with her weight to see that the drama isn’t her—it isn’t even about the food. It’s about the toddler in her who always gets her way, no questions asked. And it’s about the deep-down feeling that she was never good enough—or that something in her was wrong, or something outside her made her sad. Food didn’t just become a habit. It became the thing that stepped in when nothing else did, or when she didn’t have a better option.
I want you to have space to speak about your food life—what it’s been, what it’s cost you, what you want instead, and yes, weight loss. Because women are now told that they should be happy at any size, even when i’s causing them deep pain. That’s not inclusivity. That’s silencing. I want you to feel fully expressed, attractive, and powerful in your life. To thrive in all your roles—and smile when you see yourself in the mirror. Because getting what you really want is so much easier when you feel good, look good, and know it.
You can get out of food hell any day you want. Not with some simplistic meal plan or by chastising yourself. But by laying it all out, looking where it hurts, going back to what works, and walking your slim self out of there. It’s not always easy—but it’s easier than food hell, guaranteed. And it’s far simpler than it’s been made out to be. It’s absolutely possible. I know, because I did it. And if it’s in you, I’ll help you do it too.
Melinda